10. Dead Ponies & Date Nights

[00:00:02] Speaker A: Did we name this podcast? [00:00:04] Speaker B: We called it Trips and Giggles. [00:00:06] Speaker A: Oh, that's right. Because I was gonna say welcome back to Trips and Giggles. [00:00:11] Speaker C: Okay. [00:00:11] Speaker B: I'm making sure that it's actually turned on today, which it looks like it is. I see the timer going. [00:00:18] Speaker A: Oh, you started. [00:00:19] Speaker B: I started. [00:00:20] Speaker A: Oh, I'm sorry. [00:00:21] Speaker B: Are we podcasting? [00:00:22] Speaker A: What are you doing over here? [00:00:24] Speaker B: The I mom so hard starting. [00:00:26] Speaker A: I. [00:00:26] Speaker B: Are we podcasting? We're podcasting. [00:00:28] Speaker A: I wanted you to be like, did I catch you at a bad time? [00:00:31] Speaker B: Did I catch you? Are you on your phone? [00:00:32] Speaker A: Have you seen that? There's these very famous news reporter fails, and some of them are just, you know, shit goes wrong in the scene. But one of them is a woman is there, and she doesn't know if she's on camera. [00:00:45] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:00:45] Speaker A: And she's like, ah, so pale. And the other girl's like, you're online. She's like, later today. And what happened? You know, like, switches voices completely. Ah, so pale. [00:00:58] Speaker B: I've never seen that. [00:00:59] Speaker A: But, man, that stuff's good. Yeah. The whole off camera, on camera situation. [00:01:04] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:01:05] Speaker A: Well, exception of Bill O'Reilly, we're doing it live. [00:01:07] Speaker B: We're doing it live. [00:01:11] Speaker A: Look that up, folks. [00:01:12] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:01:13] Speaker B: So you were on your phone. Were you looking at messages from my mom about your car? [00:01:18] Speaker A: I text her. I'm gonna tell this story, so I text her. Actually, I actually tried to call her when you were upstairs putting the baby to Cordy to bed or oldest. Sorry. Because I just want to say thank you. I feel like she's been calling me, your mom, back and forth about my car issues, and I've been such in the mode of being frustrated and, like, trying to solve the problem and then just pissing money out of my ass that I haven't thanked her for doing it because, like, theoretically, she doesn't need to do anything. I mean, she could have just let my car out rot and been like, well, not my problem, you know? But she's done a lot of work to try to help out, and she doesn't need to do that. And I'm very appreciative, honestly. So I called her to say thank you, and I text her and I said, I appreciate it, and she felt really bad, but she also didn't need to now. Well, the call today was that she had taken it to the Volkswagen dealership to figure out the problem. So let me go backwards. So your mom contacted me. So wait, no, let me go further back. We sold your car, right? So we decided, okay, we're going on this Six month trip. Yeah, we missed the first episode. [00:02:26] Speaker B: I don't know. We didn't. I don't think we did. [00:02:28] Speaker A: You loved your car. [00:02:29] Speaker B: Yes. [00:02:29] Speaker A: Subaru Ascent. Awesome car. Phenomenal resale value. Literally made money off the resale. I don't know how often that happens. And we had to sell it just because your monthly payment was high and it was like, why pay. [00:02:44] Speaker B: Yeah, we were like, why pay like. [00:02:45] Speaker A: Thousands, thousands of dollars for seven months while we're gone. [00:02:48] Speaker C: Right. [00:02:49] Speaker A: So yeah. And you know what, it's a car. You're placed. [00:02:52] Speaker B: Right? [00:02:52] Speaker C: Yes. [00:02:52] Speaker A: So you sold the car. And I was like, but I want to keep mine. And I'm going to tell you why and I'll explain my frustration. Keep in mind, because it is the last Volkswagen diesel in the United States. [00:03:05] Speaker B: The last. There's no other Volkswagen diesel. [00:03:08] Speaker A: You don't remember this? [00:03:09] Speaker B: I mean, I know you looked for one for a long time. [00:03:11] Speaker A: I did look for a long time and they were really overpriced because I had one in 2007. [00:03:14] Speaker B: But you don't remember why I. Oh, because of the. Yeah, you have to add that blue stuff to it. [00:03:21] Speaker A: Yeah, adding the blue. I go blue on my Volkswagen all the time. So Volkswagen, when my car, which was the last year of diesels, they installed software into their cars to beat the emissions tests. So in the United States they were doing this big campaign to sell diesel cars, like, oh, it gets better gas mileage. You should use diesel cars. And, and. But the issue was the emission standards in the US Which I don't even understand why that's even. [00:03:49] Speaker B: Yeah, it doesn't make sense. The US just wants to screw the environment anyway. [00:03:53] Speaker A: I was like, they don't care about that. We'll help the second largest car manufacturer in the world, right? Yeah. So anyway, they install software in all their cars which is kind of like, holy shit, this is like big deal level in the US to make it so that when they take the emissions tests it would change what it outputted to show lower emissions than it actually is doing. [00:04:11] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:04:12] Speaker A: So then they had to do this multi billion dollar recall to like the whole AdBlue thing which you're talking about, which you have to put in this other element that actually helps reduce emissions, which is a pain in the ass to do. [00:04:23] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:04:23] Speaker A: But the point is, is like diesel cars is a good ass idea. And the US is the only country that didn't get on board with this. [00:04:31] Speaker B: Yeah, I mean we see them everywhere. [00:04:32] Speaker A: It's way more efficient as a car from a gas mileage Perspective. And yes, it has an emission standard issue which Europe has solved by the way. So I don't want to sell the car because I can't get that car. You know the thing I don't love about your car is it gets shit ass gas. [00:04:49] Speaker B: Oh, my gas mileage. We were spending $500 a month in gas. [00:04:53] Speaker A: We don't drive that far. No, we don't like drive around. We don't commute somewhere. Yeah, we're not like driving. [00:04:58] Speaker B: It's just like driving the kids to school and activities, you know? Anyway, point is another reason we sold it. Even though I really liked that, that car. [00:05:06] Speaker A: It's a great car. It's a great car. I like your forester Subaru. If you're listening, you make great. [00:05:12] Speaker C: Yes. [00:05:12] Speaker A: Great resale value. Well thought. Incredible the visibility. [00:05:17] Speaker B: Listen, I am a 5 foot 0 individual. Most cars, even small cars, like right now we're driving a Toyota Corolla. I can't, I can barely see over the steering wheel. [00:05:28] Speaker A: I can't see over the steering wheel. [00:05:29] Speaker B: I can't see any edges of the car. [00:05:31] Speaker A: Drive a damn tank. That's the visibility of this shit bag of a car. [00:05:35] Speaker B: Right? I can't. And my Subaru, I could see all the edges. I felt like I was sitting up high so I could actually see over the steering wheel. Both Subarus, awesome for short people. [00:05:46] Speaker A: I feel like there's no car like that though. Like even as a taller person, the visibility out of the windshield is incredible. Yeah, I mean it's really. You feel safer. You get such a great wide angle of peripheral view. [00:05:57] Speaker C: Yeah, it's phenomenal. Yeah. [00:05:59] Speaker A: Okay, we're off. Okay. So I get a call from your mom like I don't know, maybe two weeks ago and she's like, they went to, I asked them, I said, can you just drive the car once in a while? Because before I put a trickle charge on the battery, we're going for three months. It actually was fine, but it was garaged. Your mom doesn't have a garage because your stepdad has 9,000 carcasses of motorcycles stuffed in there. [00:06:24] Speaker B: He likes to buy and renovate old motorcycles and then resell them. So yeah, he has a whole shop in their garage. [00:06:29] Speaker A: Which again, like, it's not my place, it's his hobby. But there's no room for the car and I don't expect to get it. So it's like it would have been nice to have a place to garage it. And I honestly. [00:06:37] Speaker B: You just didn't want to pay the money for it. [00:06:39] Speaker A: I don't know. I just. We were pissing so much money away. Like, I, you know, we're spending like 800 bucks a month on storage for stuff. [00:06:46] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:06:46] Speaker A: And I was like, I just don't want to make another fee. And your mom offered. She offered to store a lot of stuff. And I was like, don't do that. But this one, I was like, fine, we're flying to Philly anyway. It actually kind of makes sense. I would have had to find a place near bwi, the Baltimore International Airport. It made sense. [00:07:03] Speaker C: Yes. [00:07:04] Speaker A: To take this offer. So she calls me and she goes, we went to drive the car. We opened it up. It was completely waterlogged and full of mold. So the two pieces to that are, one, there's a leak. And the second one, as I was told by the detailing guy later, was mold means food, and food means. And I knew this situation, our children. [00:07:27] Speaker B: Just like, showing, like, just all this. [00:07:31] Speaker A: Large quantities of shit on the floor. And I did not have the time or wherewithal in the process that we went through from driving from Maryland up into Philadelphia to clean the car up. [00:07:43] Speaker B: To clear out the old snack. [00:07:45] Speaker A: And they had left snacks, probably old milk. We had like wet old milk and soggy crackers. And the bacteria was like, oh, yeah, smorgasbord for some bacteria loving, hungry maniacs. So the car is just covered in mold and water. And I'm pissed. I'm pissed because the car, honestly, I. I paid the sucker off. And it's really low maintenance, right? [00:08:15] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:08:15] Speaker A: Like, yeah. [00:08:16] Speaker B: You don't pay a lot. [00:08:16] Speaker A: I get a oil change once a year. [00:08:19] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:08:20] Speaker A: And then I have tire problems. [00:08:22] Speaker B: Yeah. I hate your car for that reason. I actually hate Dr. Driving your car because literally every time I drive it, it has low tire pressure or like a tire goes flat on it. I've had to call AAA twice driving your car. [00:08:35] Speaker A: I mean, based on my driving with you today, because you can't see over the steering wheel, you hit a lot of potholes. [00:08:42] Speaker B: So I might hit like. And you did a curb or two. [00:08:45] Speaker A: Beat the. Out of my tires. Because we're going on a tangent here. The way home from the gym on. On Milander Road is this little shitbag road and it's got potholes everywhere. But it's like the faster routes were old house. And you hit every pothole, every single one. And you're used to driving a bus, right? Big ass tires, like 22 inch. You are like rolling like Dr. Dream. [00:09:12] Speaker B: That's why I need a Subaru, so I can Offer it. [00:09:14] Speaker A: And you're just like, there's a pothole. I felt nothing. You know, I mean, I'm pretty sure you've rolled over like a bear or something and wouldn't know the difference of the situation. But my car. Lower profile tires. Lower to the ground. You feel it anyway. [00:09:29] Speaker B: They're shit tires, though. [00:09:30] Speaker A: They're shit tires. When you run the potholes, that's the issue. [00:09:34] Speaker B: You constantly are having to stop different places and fill up your tires. [00:09:38] Speaker A: It's the price you pay for sexy tires. [00:09:41] Speaker B: Oh, my God. [00:09:42] Speaker A: Okay, this is not the point. So, wow. I love that this episode has now turned into my tires. So is this the trips or the giggles? Which one is this? So cars full of mold, we have to call in. Your mom calls in kind of like a mitigation agent who is like a detailing company who does this for a living. They inspect it. I said, listen, I am. I'm not fine paying the eleven hundred dollars to solve this issue for you to rip out the entire interior. I said, my problem is that I want to know what the problem is. Like, if you're going to clean it and then they park it and it rains and the car fills with water. [00:10:22] Speaker B: We are right back where we started. [00:10:24] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:10:25] Speaker A: And he's like, I'll be honest with you. He's like, we usually will find it, but there's a chance that we won't. And I was like, I'm guessing that the we won't is the chance I'm going to run into. So I pay the 1200 bucks. Does the car calls me and says, I think it's a pipe that runs to the rear air conditioner that's leaking in the seats. And I said, dude, that doesn't make sense. Based on what you told me, which was that the whole trunk was covered in water. How would a leak on the floorboards in the back seat flood into the trunk, which is higher than the back seats? He's like, oh, I don't know. I'm not sure. I'm like. I'm like, listen, I am not a car mechanic, but that doesn't make logical sense to me. He's like, well, we just don't know the answer. I was like, great. So I paid him the 1200 bucks, and then I asked your mom nicely to take it to a Volkswagen dealership where the first thing they asked her to do was, do you want an appraisal? I don't want an appraisal on my fucking car. [00:11:24] Speaker B: They were trying to buy that sucker. [00:11:26] Speaker A: Yeah, because it's a well sought after quality vehicle. That's why it's older than our oldest child. Not the point. [00:11:35] Speaker B: Courtney was like, maybe I won't have to drive it now. [00:11:37] Speaker A: No, she's driving it. That's part of the situation. If I change that transmission, she's like. [00:11:41] Speaker B: I don't want that multi car. [00:11:42] Speaker A: If I change the transmission fluid every 40,000 miles, it'll last a 350. 3:50. Okay? [00:11:50] Speaker B: So she's like, when we get home, are we gonna have to drive daddy's moldy car? [00:11:55] Speaker A: Oh, my God. Yeah, get in that mold, kid. You don't know how good you have it. Okay, you're flying business class. Shut up. Okay, you fly business class. Now let's move forward. So, last part of this. Then we need to move on to what's going on in Northern Ireland. The dealership contacts your mom calls me today, and she says they found the leak. It is the rear of the panoramic sunroof. The drainage doesn't work. They have to replace the drains on the sunroof. That's gonna cost a thousand dollars right through the heart. Also, your mom had complained to me that the starter button was not working, which, by the way, was working fine before. And they want to. They said your starter button is basically going to die. It is in bad shape, and that's going to cost. [00:12:45] Speaker B: I think your car just wants to die. [00:12:48] Speaker A: No, it does not want to die. [00:12:50] Speaker B: It doesn't like being. It's. It's like. It's very bougie like you are, and it doesn't like to be out in the weather. [00:12:56] Speaker A: It's a Volkswagen. That's the people's car. [00:12:59] Speaker B: It's like, okay, listen, that's the bourgeoisie. No, your car is like, listen, I lived in a garage since I was purchased, okay? And now you're putting me out to pasture. Fuck you. That's what your car is saying. [00:13:16] Speaker A: That's a good point. It has lived a garage life for quite some time. And for it to be outside, it's. [00:13:22] Speaker B: Like I was adopted. After I had already lived one life, I was put in the garage, and now you put me out in a. In the yard. [00:13:32] Speaker A: Can you imagine that? Like a pet that lives in the house. And then someone's like, oh, now you're an outside cat's like, I'm going to shit in your clothes. Yeah, that's what I'm going to do. [00:13:41] Speaker B: Well, our poor. Our poor finny dog, our tour dachshund. He used to sleep in bed with us, but we had him for 10 years. Like, how long did we have him before we had Cordy? [00:13:56] Speaker A: Oh, gosh, I don't know. We got him even married, so eight years. [00:14:01] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:14:02] Speaker B: So he was. He had lived, you know, half of his life sleeping under the covers with us. And then first day Cordy came home as a baby, he tried to eat her. [00:14:13] Speaker A: He did try to eat her. [00:14:14] Speaker B: And we were like, okay, you're off the bed because now you're going to jump into the crib. And that was next to the bed. And then he slowly just got more and more ousted. So then he was put into a crate in our room. And then he was whining too much over the years, and then we moved him into a crate out into the living room. And I'm just like, imagine this poor guy, end of his life. And he used to be in the bed. Now he's in a crate in the. [00:14:45] Speaker A: Living room for wanting children by. Oh, poor little guy wasn't in the cards. Poor guy. [00:14:53] Speaker B: He did live to 16, though. So he had a good life. [00:14:56] Speaker C: 15. [00:14:57] Speaker A: Yeah, he did have a good life. Well, most of it. Not all of it, but most of it. All right, so should we talk about now? Now that we talked about my car troubles? [00:15:06] Speaker C: Yes. Yes. [00:15:08] Speaker A: Where were we? You want to talk about our date nights? You want to talk about Coleraine? [00:15:14] Speaker B: Let's talk about our date nights. [00:15:16] Speaker A: Okay, so we're date nights. [00:15:19] Speaker B: We have them. [00:15:23] Speaker A: Good talk. And that's another episode of Trips and Google. [00:15:27] Speaker B: Well, like, listen, when we're back in Maryland, we don't have a good babysitter. Like, my aunt will watch our kids every so often. And we have something called parents night out for, like, this local gym that is like a kid's activity gym. And they'll. You know what? You can drop your kids off for, you know, two hours or three hours. [00:15:48] Speaker A: Three hours. [00:15:48] Speaker B: Three hours. [00:15:49] Speaker A: Pizza. They have themes. They do a nice job. [00:15:51] Speaker B: Yeah, they do a nice job. But they're, like, once a month. Ish. Like, right. Once every two months. [00:15:58] Speaker C: Once a month. [00:15:58] Speaker A: They do it once a month with a different theme every month. Sometimes there's a month off, but it's. But. But our oldest loves it. [00:16:04] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:16:04] Speaker B: So we. We get a date night here and there. But we have had such a good nanny that since we've been here, we've been out, like, together on a date night like, every week since we've been here. [00:16:18] Speaker A: It was almost mad. It wasn't her fault. She said she couldn't do this weekend, and I was, like, angry. What do you mean? We can't go out on Saturday night. [00:16:26] Speaker B: What do you mean? You have a life outside of working class. [00:16:28] Speaker A: What are you doing? I was like, why? Why would you not. I was like, what are you doing? Like, this is good money and, oh, my God, we need our Saturday night. This is a regular Saturday night thing. Okay. [00:16:42] Speaker B: I think it's because the festival is this weekend. I think that's why it is the. [00:16:46] Speaker A: Festival in Bella Castle. [00:16:48] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah. [00:16:49] Speaker B: Valley Castle Festival, which I heard. So today we went to this sunflower field. So my friend. [00:16:56] Speaker A: No ability to talk about. This is our weekly wait. [00:17:00] Speaker B: But I need to do it. I didn't even tell you this. [00:17:03] Speaker A: Okay. [00:17:03] Speaker B: So we went. We went. So we. I went with my friend. Her. She has a friend who. Whose family owns a farm. And she started the. She grew this field of sunflowers and wildflowers, and she put paths through it, and there's like these little areas of like a teddy bear picnic and a scarecrow area and a secret garden. And there's lots of, like, different little sort of like hidden away little areas throughout this path in the middle of a giant sunflower field. It's really cool. The kids loved it. But the whole idea is that you donate money and they donate money to kids, an organization that helps kids with, like, terminal illnesses. So all the money that they make from this goes to that charity, which is very cool. [00:17:59] Speaker A: How do they fund the farm then? [00:18:00] Speaker B: Well, they have other stuff. Like they. I don't know. I mean. I mean, how many. I didn't ask that question. [00:18:05] Speaker A: I mean, when you pissed away like 200 pounds of this place, where did he. [00:18:08] Speaker B: No, I mean, I just gave like £20. [00:18:11] Speaker A: Courtney told me that you spent a lot of money helping children today. [00:18:14] Speaker B: I gave them 20 pounds. [00:18:16] Speaker A: She said, Mommy spent a ton of money helping children. [00:18:20] Speaker B: Well, I saw. Put a lot more money in than I did. And then I felt guilty. Oh, I should have said, my friend put in. [00:18:26] Speaker A: Oh, great. [00:18:27] Speaker B: I saw my friend put in a lot more money than I did. [00:18:30] Speaker A: Bleep that out. I will like, Yeah, I hope that's a bleep later. [00:18:32] Speaker B: I can. I can do my friend bleep. [00:18:35] Speaker A: You know, I heard bleep at her friends. [00:18:39] Speaker B: Anyway, I'm getting to my point. I know I went on. I'm very tangential right now. I'm just trying to say. Okay, so we went to this farm. She sat down with us and had tea. She brought tea out to us after we were done going through the sunflower field, which was very nice. [00:18:53] Speaker A: Did she ask you or. She like, get a cup of tea. [00:18:55] Speaker B: She did. She was like, hey, when you're done going through the field, like, why don't you come pop over and I'll, like, bring you some tea. We'll have a little tea. But she was super nice. Super nice. Anyway. [00:19:07] Speaker A: She. [00:19:08] Speaker B: She was telling us about this festival that's going on in Bally Castle this weekend, and it's basically run by my understanding, if I'm understanding correctly, run by travelers. With travelers. The. [00:19:26] Speaker A: Like, the guy that played guitar and. And Sentra. Don't you remember that guy? [00:19:33] Speaker B: No. No. I don't know what you're talking about. [00:19:36] Speaker A: We went over to our neighbor's house, and he, like, they found. [00:19:39] Speaker B: Oh, yeah, the guy who was super street. [00:19:41] Speaker A: And they're like, hey, come up. Yeah, he didn't shower for months, and they're like, come up to our place and play later. And he's like, okay. And then he comes up with his guitar, and they shushed everybody. And so, like, 16 kids and 12 adults sat around and he's like, listen, I am a traveler. What I do is I travel. [00:19:59] Speaker B: Okay? What I will say about that is, one, he was very talented, and two, the music was good. If it was all adults, he was. [00:20:07] Speaker A: Marginally talented, and the smell was overwhelming. I would say smell. Five out of five. Talent. Three out of five. That's where I'm at. [00:20:17] Speaker B: Okay, Travelers. The not so PC term is gypsies. [00:20:24] Speaker A: You can't say that on radio anymore. [00:20:27] Speaker B: Well, I'm just. I'm not. It's not the kind. It's not. It's not the right thing to say. [00:20:31] Speaker A: Well, what. So traveler, meaning that it's a. [00:20:35] Speaker B: It's a. A. In Europe, there is a. Oh, my God. I'm gonna get this so bad, and people are gonna yell at me. [00:20:44] Speaker A: No, this is great. Please. People? What do you mean, people? [00:20:48] Speaker B: No, there is a. A subset of individuals who, like, are nomadic. But it is, like, also my understanding. This is. Oh, my God, this. I'm such a terrible American. Is that. It's also sort of like a racial group or like an ethnic group. [00:21:07] Speaker A: Oh, it's ethnic. [00:21:08] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:21:09] Speaker A: I didn't know that. [00:21:10] Speaker B: Wait, I'm gonna. [00:21:10] Speaker A: What initial ethnicity is this? [00:21:12] Speaker B: Okay, listen, so that I don't sound like such an. I'm going to look it up. [00:21:17] Speaker A: Yeah, Megan's looking up her phone. [00:21:21] Speaker B: Anyway, all I'm saying while I look this up is that. [00:21:26] Speaker A: I was gonna do a song between. [00:21:30] Speaker B: Is that what. Okay, Gypsies is a term. This is the AI Overview on. [00:21:37] Speaker A: I don't want the AI overview. I want the European traveler version. [00:21:41] Speaker B: It's a term used to refer to the Roma people, a nomadic ethnic group with roots in India who migrated to Europe over a thousand years ago. [00:21:50] Speaker A: I thought Roma people made tomatoes. [00:21:51] Speaker B: It can be used as an umbrella term for various groups, including the Irish travelers and the Scottish travelers, who are not Romani, but share a history of nomadism. The Roma people prefer the term Roma. [00:22:08] Speaker A: Okay, so this seems like something you would like because it's people that don't have a home that move around a lot. [00:22:13] Speaker B: I. You know, there you go. [00:22:14] Speaker A: I. [00:22:15] Speaker B: Probably. Exactly. So. Okay, so the. So this. My understanding is that this festival is sort of run by the travelers. [00:22:27] Speaker A: The Romas. [00:22:28] Speaker B: The Romas. And they have a bunch of horses, and they put on sort of, like, horse shows, and there's musicians, and they also have. Salzburg. No, there's, like, different kinds of horses. [00:22:39] Speaker A: I like the Salzburg horses. [00:22:41] Speaker B: They're not Salzburg horses. No. [00:22:45] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:22:45] Speaker B: No, no. Damon's making, like, little dance moves with his hands and feet right now. [00:22:51] Speaker A: Is that not. [00:22:52] Speaker B: No, that's dressage. [00:22:53] Speaker A: Oh, it's dressage. [00:22:54] Speaker B: Oh, my God. [00:22:55] Speaker A: Why does that sound so. Like, just creepy in a way. [00:22:59] Speaker B: Dressage? [00:23:00] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:23:01] Speaker B: I don't know. [00:23:01] Speaker A: You know what I mean? I went out the other day. I went to watch some dressage. [00:23:05] Speaker B: Dressage, I guess. Anyway, the story is that she said she went with her family one year, and they saw a little Shetland pony, and they were like, listen, we love this pony. And they're like, you want it £100? And they're like, okay. And so they literally didn't even, like. [00:23:31] Speaker A: Bicker that a little bit or shut that down. Like, it would have been, like, 75. [00:23:34] Speaker B: Listen, stop it. [00:23:36] Speaker A: You don't take the first offer. [00:23:37] Speaker B: I wasn't there. I wasn't. You telling the story? [00:23:39] Speaker A: It's terrible. [00:23:40] Speaker B: This is. We're playing telephone right now. There might have been some bickering, I don't know. [00:23:45] Speaker A: No, they'll be. [00:23:46] Speaker B: Anyway, they show up, like, the next day with a trailer full of just all kinds of different horses and just, like, drop off the Shetland pony at their house and. [00:24:00] Speaker A: Anyway, was the pony there when you were there? [00:24:02] Speaker B: No, the pony had died by that point. [00:24:05] Speaker A: This. [00:24:07] Speaker B: Anyway, I'll say. I don't know why I started telling this. [00:24:14] Speaker A: I asked you before this episode started. [00:24:17] Speaker B: Not to go off, not do what. [00:24:19] Speaker A: We did last episode. Like, I really wanted to get to stuff. [00:24:23] Speaker B: Well, no, where I started was that our nanny could not work for us this weekend because she had plans, and the festival that's run by the travelers who sell horses are. Is being put on in Valley Castle this weekend. Done. Period. Your turn. [00:24:45] Speaker A: I was so clear about the fact that I really wanted to talk about the experience, which. This is an experience, but we went down like, six degrees of Kevin Bacon right there without the Kevin Bacon. Like, that's what just happened. [00:25:04] Speaker B: I've just got circling. [00:25:06] Speaker A: I wanted to talk about date night. Like, that's what I wanted to talk about. And you just. I cannot believe you got to a Shetland pony. That's dead. That's where we are. [00:25:17] Speaker B: Well, look, I talked about a cool sunflower field that people can find. And this is not in the tourist books. I talked about somebody's experience. I talked about this festival. What is it called? The Llama. No, the Llama. [00:25:35] Speaker A: Yes, definitely the Llama Festival. It's Llama, Llama, Red Pajama Festival. [00:25:40] Speaker B: I think it's the Lambs. I don't know. I'll look it up. Some other festival that you can go to in Bally Castle in August. I mean, we talked about multiple Northern Irish things right there in my tangent. [00:25:55] Speaker A: Listen, I want. I know this. This. This is supposed to be about our trip. Like, the experience of two people. One who really wants to do this, the other one wants to go home. Like, it's supposed to show this. [00:26:07] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:26:07] Speaker A: That's important. I agree. But I want people to really recognize what it's like in a relationship with someone that has pretty significant ADHD and someone who's, like, pretty detail oriented. [00:26:22] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:26:23] Speaker A: And like a planner versus, like, the spontaneous. And I know we've made it through 16 years. [00:26:30] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:26:30] Speaker A: And there's been a lot of, like, going ons, but, like, there are moments that happen like this, and I'm. I'm with you. And I think it was like. I like what you said, but I'm also like. I wanted to talk about date nights. [00:26:43] Speaker B: You're right. Well, you said you were angry because our nanny wasn't able to work this weekend. I was trying to justify why she was. [00:26:53] Speaker A: Why do you need to justify? The substance is about the dates. I was expressing an emotion. You didn't need to spend 25 minutes defending her by talking about the Llama festival and a dead Shetland park. [00:27:06] Speaker B: Wait, now I need to look up what the name of this festival is. [00:27:08] Speaker A: Don't do it. [00:27:08] Speaker B: Don't do it. Okay, go ahead. [00:27:10] Speaker A: So you did it anyway. [00:27:12] Speaker B: Festival. Festival. No, not festival. Date nights. What has been your favorite date night so far? [00:27:20] Speaker A: Oh, my gosh. [00:27:23] Speaker B: This is why I'm so exhausted. At the end, I'm exhausted. [00:27:26] Speaker A: You're exhausted? [00:27:27] Speaker B: I'm exhausted. No, not at the end of these. Cox, I love these. [00:27:30] Speaker A: No, no, no. I'm talking about my eye. [00:27:33] Speaker B: When I. If I have, like, a whole day full of meetings, I'm pretty exhausted because I have to really reign in, like, these tangents. I have to reign in my brain. [00:27:42] Speaker A: Yes, yes. Because I'm not going to do it because I'll be exhausted. [00:27:48] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:27:48] Speaker A: What is my favorite date night we've had? I don't know that I could pick a favorite. I'm appreciative that we've had these opportunities to go to different places and enjoy our nights out. You know, I actually had a hard time here, getting us reservations. [00:28:02] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:28:02] Speaker A: For some of these date nights because there's not a ton of restaurants at Port Rush, so the ones that are rated pretty well are hard to get into. [00:28:10] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:28:10] Speaker A: But we have hit the majority of restaurants at this point, so we went to the. I'm trying to think what the first one was. I remember the Elephant Rock Hotel. [00:28:20] Speaker B: Yeah, that was nice. I like that. [00:28:22] Speaker A: Which is cool. Which is near the building you're gonna buy, which overlooks the water and sees the shanty. [00:28:26] Speaker B: Well, I talked to our friend's husband today about it, and he doesn't think it's a good financial decision, so I'm rethinking that plan. [00:28:35] Speaker A: I like how when you get advice from people that are not me, it changes your mind. [00:28:41] Speaker B: Well, no, it's because he lives here and he works for the town council. And so I was getting advice from somebody who has insider knowledge that's. [00:28:50] Speaker A: I already told you this. My point is, like, this. This happens a lot. Like, I will tell you, you ask me my opinion, I'll tell it to you. [00:28:58] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:28:58] Speaker A: You call, email, or write on, you know, nine other people. [00:29:03] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:29:04] Speaker A: They agree with me. And then you tell me, oh, I saw this person. That just seems like it's not a good idea. Well, I was in this podcast. This lawyer said X, Y, and Z. And I said, that's okay. So I'm just, like, awesome. [00:29:16] Speaker B: I'm still tempted to buy it anyway. [00:29:18] Speaker A: But, you know, oh, you don't have to buy that building. There's plenty of other buildings you talked about in the last episode you can buy. [00:29:22] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:29:25] Speaker A: And we went to the Adelphi. That was the first date. I remember we went to, like, this new hotel in Port Rush, which was supposed to be kind of, like, really super revamped before the open came here. [00:29:34] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:29:34] Speaker A: And we shared a Tomahawk steak. [00:29:37] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:29:37] Speaker A: And we talked about this a little bit, I think. [00:29:38] Speaker C: Yeah, we did. [00:29:39] Speaker A: Anyway, that was really nice. I actually really liked our last date that we just did this week. [00:29:44] Speaker B: It was just very spontaneous. [00:29:45] Speaker A: It was super spontaneous. Right. So we just kind of like figured it out. We had an afternoon together because there's a festival in Bally Castle. So of course we can't have our date on a Saturday, you know. [00:29:56] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah. [00:29:57] Speaker A: You know, there's flower fields and dead chitlin ponies everywhere. So we rolled into this place called the Shanty, which was right on the water. And just ordered drinks, right? [00:30:09] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:30:10] Speaker A: And they were killer. [00:30:11] Speaker B: So good. [00:30:11] Speaker A: Whatever the. The thing. You got some not pina colada. [00:30:15] Speaker B: Oh. I mean, it was like you can't even taste the alcohol in it. Did it happen? [00:30:19] Speaker A: This giant square clear ice, which I love when they do that stuff. I know it's kitschy, but like, I love it. [00:30:24] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:30:25] Speaker A: And old fashioned. I probably could have sat there and had like four more drinks and we just watched the waves and talked. [00:30:31] Speaker B: Oh, so beautiful. It was like a 360 view. [00:30:33] Speaker A: Gorgeous day. I mean, to see if it was gorgeous. [00:30:36] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:30:36] Speaker A: But you were like, let's go next place. Let's. Let's borrow. [00:30:38] Speaker B: Well, I was hungry. I was. I was hungry. Like I would have sat there if I wasn't hungry, but they weren't serving food and I was like, I was starting to get a little peckish. [00:30:48] Speaker A: So then we started struggling to find a place because nothing we could find could open until 5:30. [00:30:54] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:30:55] Speaker A: And we had like an early date night. So we actually rolled over to the Harbor Bar that has the best Guinness in town. It's fantastic. [00:31:03] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:31:03] Speaker A: Super foamy top. [00:31:04] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:31:05] Speaker A: I thought that was awesome. [00:31:06] Speaker B: Super smooth. We got to sit in this little. Like this building is super cool. I don't. It's got to be hundreds of years old. I don't know. But they have a little room off of the bar that really only holds like four tables and it has a fireplace in it. [00:31:19] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. [00:31:20] Speaker B: And it's just, I mean, the coziest, coolest place. [00:31:23] Speaker A: Yeah. When we were there in April, like they had the fire going there. Like it's a real wood burning fire. Fire in a bar. [00:31:29] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:31:29] Speaker A: Who does this? [00:31:30] Speaker B: It's really cool. [00:31:31] Speaker A: It's so awesome. [00:31:32] Speaker B: And with like the cooler weather, it just like, it's perfect. [00:31:35] Speaker A: I mean, place is packed sometimes. Like we went on a great day because it was what, a Wednesday or whatever we went. So it was just a great time to be there. A Lot of people just get beers and sit outside and watch the water. And anyway, it was great. And then. And then we walked back in by the music part. Went to Top Blade, which is where we're gonna go for a date at some point. Anyway, we just walked in because it was early. [00:31:53] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:31:53] Speaker A: And they put us at a window seat, which was nice. But this place had gotten pretty rough reviews in the past. [00:32:01] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:32:03] Speaker A: So. And even your friend, who is not to be named, even your friend beep said, like, this is bad. People said, it's not good. Like, don't go here. Even though it had a great view. I wanted to sit outside, but she told us to find flies were too much. But, like, I was cooking in there. [00:32:21] Speaker B: Yeah, it was really hot. And we were getting attacked by flies inside. [00:32:24] Speaker A: We got attacked by flies inside and it was hot. Steak thoughts? What do you think? [00:32:29] Speaker B: I thought, I thought, like, it got mixed reviews and I felt like it was a mixed experience. Like, the steak wasn't bad. It was not the most tender filet that I've ever had, but it wasn't terrible. And like, it had good seasoning. [00:32:45] Speaker A: Yes. [00:32:46] Speaker B: I would say that the broccoli that I got, you know, wasn't overcooked, but it was a little like, ho hum. It was like a little boring. [00:32:56] Speaker A: It was uninspired. [00:32:57] Speaker B: It was uninspired. [00:32:58] Speaker A: Quite an uninspired broccoli. [00:33:00] Speaker B: But I like for the fact that we couldn't get in anywhere else and we just rolled into this place. I think it was fine. [00:33:07] Speaker A: Yeah. I'm gonna agree. Like, the fact that we rolled it and it actually seemed very low key. Like lots of people. There are kids, people rolling in. Like, this wasn't like before one of the reservations. I couldn't get us in. It made it seem fancy. [00:33:18] Speaker C: And it's not fancy. [00:33:19] Speaker A: It really wasn't fancy. My steak was cooked right, which is rare. Like, I feel like some places just cook it wrong and I'm pissed. And it was well seasoned. It was just thin, which is the same thing I'd had at the Harbor Bistro when I went with your other. With your friend was like, it was just like a really thin steak. [00:33:34] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:33:35] Speaker A: My green beans were inedible. [00:33:37] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:33:37] Speaker A: They were basically like green beans we've had for your family, which your family's tradition on green bean cooking. And by the way, I am bougie as a. As a cook, as a generally. So I'm just gonna let you know, but I'm just gonna be straight up objective about this. They take green beans, they put Them in a pot of boiling water, and they leave them on the stove for 45 minutes, then they drain them and put them on your plate. [00:33:58] Speaker B: Yeah. There's not, like, seasoning on them, and they're just pretty seasoning on them. They're pretty limp. [00:34:03] Speaker A: Actual. They've literally. Yeah. What in the. What in the fuck do you think gets boiled for 45 minutes as a vegetable and tastes good? [00:34:11] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:34:12] Speaker A: Do you think that that's good? [00:34:14] Speaker B: Listen, it's how they were taught, so, you know, from, like. Like, who thought from. From the Great Depression. Somebody from the Great Depression. [00:34:22] Speaker A: What kind of shit is this? I just wonder, like, I'm not gonna go into this. Let's not do this. The level of depression that continues to permeate the boomer level is insane. [00:34:34] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:34:34] Speaker A: It's insane that it's still here and we're still staring at. Granted. You should be. I agree with being frugal, being smart, reusing things, being sustainable. I love all that shit. Boiling green beans for 45 minutes is one of the worst things I've ever had. [00:34:50] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. [00:34:51] Speaker B: I mean, you make a pretty good green bean with sauteed butter crunch going. [00:34:56] Speaker A: This is true for almost everything. I believe this in all cases. Broccoli, asparagus, green beans. There should be a little bit of textural crunch to it. [00:35:05] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:35:06] Speaker A: Not raw, but crunch it. [00:35:09] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:35:09] Speaker A: If it is a rubber and you're, like, gnawing on it and your. Your teeth bounce back when you bite. [00:35:15] Speaker B: Into it or it's just mush. [00:35:18] Speaker A: Oh, God. I just. I can't. I can't with either one of those situations. I just can't do it. I ate a lot of frozen vegetables as a kid. Right. Like, not frozen vegetables like you did, where you just chewed on frozen vegetables, which they was told was a delicacy. Again, this was a depression situation that you dealt with. [00:35:34] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:35:35] Speaker B: Which now our kids eat frozen vegetables. So, like, straight up, not like cooked frozen. [00:35:39] Speaker A: No, no. [00:35:39] Speaker B: They just, like, straight out of the freezer. [00:35:42] Speaker A: Like, teething is also, like, not a bad thing. But, like, when I. When my family did them, they put them in the freezer. They would put them in a bowl, throw, like, a piece of butter on it, and then microwave it. So the green beans were always just like, soggy ass green beans. [00:35:55] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:35:56] Speaker A: You know? [00:35:56] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:35:56] Speaker A: But, like, that's just. I like fresh vegetables. Is this. [00:36:01] Speaker B: I mean, it's bougie, you know? [00:36:03] Speaker A: No, bougie. And I don't even do this as much because I don't. I don't feel like Doing it is blanching it. If I blanched it and then I put it in cold water and then I sauteed it in a beautiful butterfly. [00:36:13] Speaker B: In America, you can't buy vegetables unless you're willing to give up your left kidney. So, you know, because vegetables are so expensive. Why are you blinking at me? [00:36:24] Speaker A: I just loving the dead silence on this one as you bash America. I mean, it just depends. I mean, it depends on what you're buying and where you're buying it. [00:36:31] Speaker B: Okay, okay. [00:36:32] Speaker A: I'm way too far. So my point is, is, like, it was nice to be with you. That was not a top 10 meal for me. But the US bar hopping, which is something we never do, was a lot of fun. [00:36:44] Speaker B: That was fun. [00:36:44] Speaker A: I would love to eat at the shanty. If the drinks are at that level that they provided us, I want their food did. [00:36:50] Speaker B: The last three dates that we go on, like every one, we ended at our local. [00:36:55] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. Every time. [00:36:57] Speaker B: Every time. [00:36:59] Speaker A: Is it our local or is it the local? [00:37:01] Speaker B: I am saying our local. [00:37:02] Speaker A: What did your friend BLEEP call it? [00:37:06] Speaker B: Well, the one day so I met up with her to listen to traditional Irish music. [00:37:11] Speaker A: You talked about that, like, the first time. [00:37:12] Speaker B: Yes, I did. And we, when we were leaving, she goes, oh, this is like, right near your house, right? And I go, yeah. And she was like, it's your local. So now I'm saying it's our local. It's my local. It's your local. It's our local. Because it's right around the corner. [00:37:31] Speaker A: Can you pause? And I go pee. Yeah, I'm gonna come back to local. [00:37:36] Speaker C: Yes. [00:37:37] Speaker B: So did you have a nice pee? [00:37:40] Speaker A: The parts you're not gonna edit out? [00:37:42] Speaker B: You know, I'll try to edit that out. [00:37:45] Speaker A: You don't have to edit that out. I told you not to really edit this. I mean, the idea is that we just talk it through. Okay, so it's our local. [00:37:52] Speaker B: Yes. [00:37:53] Speaker A: As your friend said. [00:37:54] Speaker B: Yes, it's great. It's this cool little pub that there's no food served, but the bartenders are cool. There's like little benches, a fireplace. It's just like a cute little place to grab a pint. Or a half pint in my case. [00:38:14] Speaker A: Yeah, they're super cozy. I mean, these super cozy little benches. I mean, clearly the place has not been redecorated in many, many years. But, like, that's kind of pub style, right? [00:38:23] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:38:23] Speaker A: And it's definitely got people who are local just hanging out there. Just random dudes in there. I have that. You have to sit. There's like an outdoor space which is kind of cool. Like a courtyard. [00:38:35] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:38:36] Speaker A: Which is nice. The bathroom for, like, the men's bathroom is the trough style. Pisser. [00:38:42] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:38:42] Speaker A: So, you know, like, you really get to, like, you know, there's a lot of. A lot of dicks hanging out there. [00:38:47] Speaker B: Ew. I don't like that. [00:38:49] Speaker A: Yeah. There's no privacy. You know what I mean? [00:38:50] Speaker B: It's very uncomfortable. [00:38:51] Speaker A: People are sneaking a peek at your own wank. You know what I mean? [00:38:54] Speaker B: Yeah, I don't love that. [00:38:55] Speaker A: I don't. [00:38:57] Speaker B: But not a dude. [00:38:58] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. But you get to get your half pints, which, by the way, are readily available here. You ask for, like, half pours in the US and the happy were like, what are you doing this year? They have special glasses for you for each beer type. [00:39:09] Speaker B: I know. [00:39:10] Speaker A: So you get it. So we get the harp. It's like a harp glass. The Guinness is a Guinness glass. It's literally just happening. [00:39:15] Speaker B: I love it. I love. Half pint is so perfect for me. Like, I don't want it. Like, it's too much liquid. [00:39:20] Speaker A: Agreed. [00:39:21] Speaker B: For a whole pint for me. And I, like, I just want a little bit. Just want a little. [00:39:25] Speaker A: You're generally correct. I was just having a conversation with the guys at the workout session that your friend Boops place, and they were saying how, like, when you have pints, you know, we're over 40. We're waking up the pee anyway. But we're waking up the pee like, twice as much, so it'd be a lot easier to have less liquid, AKA whiskey, which I don't. I still haven't gone to Bushmills. I'm so angry, and I'm not gonna get into this. Like, I haven't been there yet. Yeah, we've been here for almost a month. I'm pissed. Not the point. So. But yes. The idea that you could just get a half pint or be able to try different beers without getting yourself wasted or super full. [00:40:01] Speaker C: Yes. [00:40:01] Speaker A: It's just awesome. And as I said to you, as a business, if I was a business in the US And I am selling beer, why would I not sell something that's a half pint that costs more than half of the actual pint? [00:40:15] Speaker B: Right. [00:40:15] Speaker A: So if the pint costs, I don't know, six bucks or something. [00:40:19] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:40:19] Speaker A: I would charge four for the half pint and people would happily pay it. [00:40:23] Speaker B: Well, we did have one person say, you know, it's not that much more for the whole pint. And I was like, it's okay. Like, I just, I don't want the whole pint. So it, like, I will pay a slightly less fee, but probably more than what you know. You know what I mean? [00:40:39] Speaker A: You pay extra, but that's what I don't get. [00:40:42] Speaker B: Yeah. Because that's what I want. [00:40:42] Speaker A: The only time we didn't follow that is you told me to get a half pint at the Harbor Bar. And I was like, no, no, you're getting two because I'm gonna have the other half of it. Yeah, because it's that good. Yeah. No, we've ended our dates there every time. And it sucks because I feel like once we get there, we've had a few, so we're really having a good time at that point. And then the time just, it goes real fast. It's gone. [00:41:04] Speaker C: Yeah, it's gone. [00:41:04] Speaker A: The last time we went, I got a Bushmills 14 year, which is super nice. Here you get like, there's so much Bushmills. Of course there's. Because it's down the road. And I had gotten it from this, from the three tooth bearded guy who was the bartender. It was super nice. And then I go to go to the bathroom and I come back and my glass is refilled. [00:41:26] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:41:26] Speaker A: And what happened? [00:41:27] Speaker B: He came over and he was like, you know, I was like kicking this. There's not enough for a whole nother, like shot basically, or whiskey. So I had to get rid of it anyway. So I figured, like, I'll just give it to your husband. And I was like, well, that's nice. [00:41:43] Speaker A: Didn't you say that? He was like, well, either I was going to drink it or I'll give it to you. [00:41:47] Speaker B: I don't remember. [00:41:48] Speaker A: I feel like that's what you said. I was like. So he contemplated just drinking it on the job and decided. [00:41:53] Speaker B: I don't remember. Actually, though, I don't think he said that. I. I actually didn't really understand what he was saying because he had such a strong accent when he came over. But the gist that I got from it was I was gonna have to get rid of this somehow, so I might as well give it to you. [00:42:09] Speaker A: I feel like I thought what you said was like he was contemplating whether he was going to drink it or give it away. He's like, ah, you know, they were nice. Whatever. These poor Americans could clearly use a drink. Their country is in peril. [00:42:20] Speaker B: What I do think is nice is that, you know, we've been married 16 years now. How long really have we been together? [00:42:27] Speaker A: That long? [00:42:28] Speaker B: I don't know. A long time. [00:42:29] Speaker A: Feels like yesterday. You look the same. [00:42:30] Speaker B: Oh, that's so sweet. We. We first got together in 2005. 2006. [00:42:36] Speaker A: Oh. We came here in 2006 because that would be 19 years ago was the last time we were here. But we actually started dating in 2005. [00:42:45] Speaker B: Okay. So we've been dating for 20 years. But I, you know, the nice thing is like, I feel like we. When we go out and we sit and have conversations, like you said, like, the time goes like that. It was like, it's because we're best friends. It's just nice. It's like, nice to sit and have a conversation. That's why I like doing these because they're just fun. Fun to talk to you. [00:43:07] Speaker A: I like talking to you too. And I think the other thing that makes it special is we don't really get to talk anymore. [00:43:12] Speaker B: I know. [00:43:13] Speaker A: We don't even talk anymore. [00:43:14] Speaker B: I know. We'll try to have a conversation. And like, halfway through a sentence, our child's interrupting. [00:43:19] Speaker A: The level of interruption is off the charts. And like, it's hard because she has adhd. And like, that whole process is like, that thought comes to mind. And I have to say it because if I don't, I'll forget. [00:43:34] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:43:34] Speaker A: And then, then they feel like, unheard, you know? And I was like, even though I know that, I'm still like, I cannot finish conversations with you. So the idea that we could just have. I mean, these, these are true as well, but those are a little bit more. Even more real. Like, these are pretty real. But I would say those are. We go into stuff that we would not talk about here. [00:43:59] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. [00:44:00] Speaker B: Well, I. What's funny is tonight she was like, I was like, I need to run downstairs and tell daddy something. She's like, no, no, don't go. I don't leave me. Like, she doesn't like to be separated at certain points. And I was like, listen, I'm just one sentence. I have to tell daddy one sentence. And I came down. I was like, halfway down the stairs and I was like, telling you. And then you responded and I responded back. And we had maybe like a three sentence conversation. And I went back upstairs and our daughter was like, that was not one sentence. [00:44:33] Speaker A: I can hear her trying to interrupt from the stairs at the time. I will say, and this is kind of part of like, parenting is like, she also was the one who said, like, we went on the date the second week. Like, we went the date the first. [00:44:51] Speaker B: Week, which was which was acceptable. [00:44:54] Speaker A: It was our anniversary. [00:44:55] Speaker B: Yeah, right. [00:44:56] Speaker A: It was our anniversary. She had known about. It was our anniversary weekend. And we went out and then we went out. [00:45:00] Speaker B: Yeah. She told the babysitter, like, oh, well, my parents are going out because it's their anniversary. [00:45:04] Speaker A: So we went out the second week. [00:45:06] Speaker B: And she says, she said, why are you going out? It's not your anniversary. [00:45:11] Speaker A: Yep. We get once a year, folks. Once a year is acceptable to our child. [00:45:17] Speaker B: What do you mean you're going out again? It's not your anniversary. Why would you go out again? [00:45:22] Speaker A: I feel like we spend a good amount of time with our children. Like you more so than me right now because of the working situation. [00:45:31] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:45:31] Speaker A: And yet I'm asked tonight the question brought to me during our walk. We went on a walk tonight with our oldest and our youngest wanted to go on a walk to go to sleep. She goes to sleep in the pram, the stroller. And our oldest was like, dad, would you rather spend time with Nuggie and me or work? And I'm like, what are you getting at here, kid? Yeah, you know, And I said, my answer is I would rather hang out with you two. But unfortunately, that doesn't get us money to fly your mother around the world and have us not have a home because she has needs. And her needs are to fly around the world and constantly keep moving. [00:46:19] Speaker B: I mean, don't talk about food or clothing or, you know, those things are irrelevant compared to paying off your hat, your. Your mold ridden car. [00:46:27] Speaker A: That's a necessity versus a. Would be nice too. [00:46:31] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. [00:46:32] Speaker A: So I said, yeah, we can't. We cannot do your mom's dream. We wouldn't even be here in Port Rush if it wasn't for jobs. [00:46:40] Speaker B: Here's the thing though, and I'll just say this and we can kind of wrap it up. But I think it's because like one. I think this is like not a bad thing because she. Our kids want to spend time with us and that's important. [00:46:57] Speaker A: I do. I appreciate that. [00:46:59] Speaker B: And also she's looking at it from a kid brain. Like we have this whole history of like recognizing what our parents did. Did, like and how much they worked and how that there was. There was not a lot of protected time. Like your parents had like three jobs. They had to. They had to like to make ends meet. Right. My parents worked a lot. And so, you know, we have that context to put this in. There's not that context. Right. Like there were. She's looking at from her eyes, which is. I Like my parents, I want them to be around. I don't like it even when they go to work part time, you know, like I'm working part time, you know, and they. And you, you are working full time, but full time is still not like the hours that our parents did or other people's parents did. [00:47:52] Speaker A: That's true. And so I think it is and it isn't. Right. Like I can work non traditional hours. [00:47:57] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:47:58] Speaker A: Whereas like our, our folks couldn't. Right. So their working system had to be within what was arranged for them by their employers. [00:48:06] Speaker B: Right. [00:48:06] Speaker A: And we have a bit of a privilege in the sense which is probably not good for our own like psyches and. Or rest where like I work at night. [00:48:14] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:48:15] Speaker A: I work almost every single night of the week. [00:48:17] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:48:18] Speaker A: When they go to bed. [00:48:19] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:48:19] Speaker A: Right. So that's the difference. They don't see it. It's not like tangible to them. [00:48:25] Speaker B: Right. So I mean, I just think it's like they don't have that worldview context and so it's hard to understand, you know, and that's okay. [00:48:33] Speaker A: But your worldview context is built upon like what you have. Like, I don't have a great memory of my own childhood, but, like, I don't feel like I didn't spend a lot of time with my mom. Like I think we did spend a lot of time together, you know, even with. In her life, in her job situation. She had summers off. [00:48:49] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:48:50] Speaker A: And we didn't do a lot of camps, so we did spend a lot of time together. You know, so it was more like my dad was away a lot more because he ended up working jobs farther away. [00:48:59] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:49:00] Speaker A: So, you know, he would be gone before we ate breakfast and return after dinner situation, you know, so that was the difference. But like contextually, did I want more time with my parents or have the conversation with them? I honestly don't remember what it was like when I was eight. [00:49:14] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:49:15] Speaker A: That's unfair of me. [00:49:16] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:49:16] Speaker B: I mean, it's hard to know. [00:49:17] Speaker C: Right. [00:49:18] Speaker A: So you're right. I am coming from my perspective in the situation. But I also kind of like reflect in there. It's like, is that, is that her? Are they saying that they feel like they don't get enough time with me or with us? Like I'm not around as much. Like I've been around. I was around a lot more before because we were both working part time to watch the baby. Right. And now it shifted because, like my business stuff has really taken off. [00:49:47] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:49:48] Speaker A: And you were kind of phasing out A portion of your business or. There's been times where you worked full time and I work part time. [00:49:54] Speaker C: Mm. [00:49:55] Speaker A: In her. In her lifetime. [00:49:57] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:49:57] Speaker A: Where it was, like, very different. [00:49:58] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:49:59] Speaker A: So it's like, there's been phases. [00:50:02] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:50:02] Speaker A: You know, I'm just trying to acknowledge and wondering, like, what. What does that mean? Like, what is she. [00:50:08] Speaker B: I think. I don't. I don't think it's a problem solving thing. I think it's. Acknowledge the emotion. It's. I. I want you around. [00:50:16] Speaker A: Put on my psychologist hat. [00:50:17] Speaker B: Yeah, right. Exactly. [00:50:21] Speaker C: It's. [00:50:21] Speaker B: I like you being around. I want you around more often. I want you to come on these little adventures that we go on and. Why can't you come on these adventures? So I don't. I think it's more of an immediate, like, well, you know, you had. You just had. Spent the afternoon. You took the afternoon off. You went with them crabbing. Right. Like, we. They went like. You spent time with Cordy and our friend. Friend's husband and their kid and. And the little one catching crabs. And. And that was like, a fun thing for Cordy. And so I think she's sort of like, well, why can't you do that all the time? That was fun, you know, so. Yeah, I mean, that's. That's what I think it is. So we just acknowledge the emotion and, you know, move on. [00:51:16] Speaker A: I acknowledge the emotion. [00:51:17] Speaker C: I know you do. [00:51:18] Speaker A: That's what I do. [00:51:19] Speaker B: Okay, so on that note, I just wanted to inclusio this, not actually because we didn't start this episode with it. It's called Old Llamas Fair. L A M M A S Fair. [00:51:31] Speaker A: So it is llamas. [00:51:33] Speaker B: Well, I don't think it's called. I don't know. I don't think it's. I don't think that's probably how you pronounce it. It's probably like lamb sphere or Lamb's Fair. [00:51:45] Speaker A: Anyway, I believe you. No, no. You're showing me the phone. Megan, like, turns it around. I was just, like, saying it's like, that's how you pronounce it. [00:51:53] Speaker B: I mean, I don't. I. I like. I don't know. I can't. I know people have said it to me several times, and for whatever reason, it's not sticking in my brain, but I don't think it's llamas. I think it's like llamas or lambs or something like that. [00:52:06] Speaker A: My imagination. We talk about this is. I'm seeing people, like, hit the unsubscribe button. Stop notifying me about this. Like, there's a point where. Like, how do I unsubscribe to this situation? [00:52:17] Speaker B: Well, like I said last time, keep listening. Or don't. Whatever you want. And I'm not gonna say the title name because you told me not to last. [00:52:33] Speaker A: No, no, no. I think at this point, you just. You need to. You need to finish it. [00:52:37] Speaker B: Do, do, do. And that was an episode of Trips and Giggles. Bye for this time. Tune in next time. Bye, Sam.